The Power of Play
By: Sara ElMakawy
Play is a child’s natural form of communication. In order to meet children where they are, it is essential to relate to them in the most developmentally appropriate ways. Child-centered play therapy (CCPT) is based on the belief that children have everything within themselves to heal and grow. This model is a non-directive form of therapy in which the child leads the session and is encouraged to play freely with the therapeutic tools in the playroom. The therapist observes and reflects the child in very intentional ways and sets specific limits throughout the session. This allows the child to process difficult emotions and experiences, express themselves, and develop positive coping methods in a safe and nurturing environment.
During a play session, the therapist unconditionally regards the child. Allowing the child to lead the play gives them a sense of control over their experiences, which can be especially impactful for children who are frustrated or “stuck” in their situations. Some of the benefits of this model include increased independence, positive decision-making and communication, emotion recognition and regulation, and feeling more secure in themselves and their relationships. Play therapy can benefit a child who has experienced trauma, stress, adjustment, parental separation, or grief. A child who has been struggling with regulating their emotions, focusing and calming down their bodies, responding to limits set, and behaving appropriately could greatly benefit from play therapy.
A child’s “worst” or most challenging behavior is insight into where they are hurting. When a child feels powerless, they might act in authoritative or controlling ways because they want to be in a safe place where they feel powerful. Throughout child-centered play, children learn that they do not actually want all of the power, and it encourages them to engage in more balanced play. Just like for adults, the therapeutic process can cause behaviors and emotions to get “worse” before they get better. Children are processing complicated and confusing emotions and experiences in the playroom. As the sessions progress, we start to see a more organized and calm play that brings the child joy and security. We also see that children can respond to limits more effectively and regulate their emotions in and out of the playroom.
Are you wondering about some ways that you can engage in meaningful play with your child to enhance your relationship and encourage their positive growth? Even 5-10 minutes of quality, uninterrupted playtime with your child can be powerful. Allowing your child to lead the play and reflecting on what they are doing shows them that you are present and care about the imaginative world they are inviting you into. This could also be as simple as playing a game, engaging in arts and crafts, reading, or spending time in nature together.
Play is powerful for adults, too. Playing allows you to return to who you are at your core by doing the things that bring you joy. With the emotional toll caused by stressors such as caregiving, work, global and systemic issues, and personal challenges, intentionally setting time to restore balance in your life is crucial. Laughing with loved ones, engaging in a hobby, or just playing a game of any kind can significantly affect how you feel and relate to others.
References:
Landreth, G. L. (2012). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (3rd ed.). Routledge, Cop.
Dr. Brenna Hicks - Play Therapist Coach, Author & Speaker. (n.d.). Brenna Hicks, PhD, LMHC. Retrieved October 13, 2023, from https://www.brennahicks.com/
